So many times in our lives we have to answer questions, which mostly require one of the two answers – ‘yes’ or ‘no’.  Simple, you would think.  Not so. Pythagoras commented many centuries ago that “the oldest, shortest words – ‘yes’ and ‘no’ – are those which require the most thought.”

The problem with human race is that our default position is to say ‘no’. It is the safer option that often does not require taking risks and adding something else to an already busy existence. We are afraid of the responsibility and of the changes which may turn our lives upside down.  We say ‘no’ as we are convinced that we cannot do whatever is asked of us. However, by always saying ‘no’, we miss a lot of amazing opportunities and shut out a lot of wellness, as well as inspiring people and deeds from our lives. Saying ‘no’ often means that we think we cannot do what is laid before our eyes.

This is not to say that there is no place for a ‘no’ answer, especially when it comes to business. We do need to reject even good things to get to the best things, and this is applicable in business and personal lives.

As for growing and maturing as a person, invigorate yourself. Make a new resolution to master the art of saying ‘yes’ and embrace the new motto of “I can do it!”.  We would have a much happier and more productive nation this way. 

Live a little.  Do not be afraid.  Start small. Initially, say yes to tiny and insignificant things that arise in your life.  Talk to a stranger, call an old friend, try one new thing daily, ask questions you have been afraid to ask and seek out people to do something that will make a difference to your life.  What is the worst that will happen? They will turn away or say ‘no’, being the default response for most of us.  However, they may surprise you and actually say ‘yes’, in turn possibly transforming your life in some of its aspects.

Remember next time you are answering any question, especially the one about your personal abilities, to think of the famous children’s character Bob the Builder, who, when asked “can we fix it?” always has the same answer – “yes we can!”

An amazing and very creative human being, Walt Disney, lived by the saying “if you can dream it, you can do it”. So, stop dwelling on what could have been because you rejected it and said ‘no’.  ‘Yes’ and ‘I can do it’ should become your favourite statements. Transform your thinking and you will start reaping the rewards and enjoying aspects of life which you did not know existed.