We often come to cross roads and are faced with making life choices. Some bring positive consequences, some bring negative. As Alfred A. Montapert once said: “nobody ever did, or ever will, escape the consequence of his choices”. But every choice we make shapes us into the people we are today.
Although life should be lived with no regret, as regret means your life was not worth living up until this point, the choices causing grief and heartache are best avoided at all cost. In any event, one should always remember that there are no mistakes in life, only lessons to be learnt. These lessons are often painful but everything in life happens for a reason and it is all about give and take.
Be sorry for causing pain to others, but not sorry for making a particular choice. Someone once said that: “there are things in life we do not want to happen, but have to accept; things we do not want to know, but have to learn, and people we cannot live without, but have to let go.” So accept, learn and let go!
Start being responsible for your own behaviour and its effect on others. If you hurt someone – apologise! But be prepared that they may not be able to forgive you. Take control of your life, create positive outcomes, let go of things you cannot change and speak your mind. Life is too short to leave anything unsaid. Smile and move on. Eventually others will too.
“A life lived on your knees is a life half lived!”
It is all about having experiences, good, bad or indifferent that shape our person. It is how we react in trying times that defines us . . . how we react will determine whether we are someone to know and revere!
Well said Jane!
I agree 100%! People spend too much time complaining and not enough time living. Very wise Jane!
“A prayer for those wild at heart kept in cages”…
And as for regrets and self pity…. Only those whose life is full of; issues, baggage, obstacles and mistakes, those who have fought their own battles…who often lost and still somehow picked themselves up again!! They are the ones that are forged from the strongest steel! Those are the people you wish to have by your side….
To regret what you have done is counter productive… The only regret that matters is the regret of what you didn’t have the drive to do!
Love you cookie x