It is not rocket science to realise that what is expected of a modern woman in today’s day and age is a far cry from the perceived role of a woman 50 years ago.

Most modern women are always on the run, chasing their tail and not seeing the end of it.  The expectation is that one can combine having a family, raising well-adjusted children, keeping a clean house, working a full time job (or at least the hours of a full time job), looking after their own physical and emotional well-being, having time for friends and family and giving 100% to each of these activities.  We try to prove to those around us that we can do it all without realising that it is a job for a superhero.  In the process of trying to get things done, we forget that there are only 24 hours in each day and one person can only do so much.  So why do we insist on doing it?

We are driven by making an effort to ensure that all things which need to be done in a particular day have all been taken care of.  Otherwise, we feel like a failure. This requires the process of multitasking to be taken to a whole new level.  But why are we so determined to do so many things at once? Does it increase the level of happiness in our lives if all of the tasks we undertake and push ourselves to do are achieved? For me, the answer is definitely “no”!  There are too many things we want to achieve in one day, but accomplishing all of them is unrealistic.  This just adds to the annoyance and frustration of the realm of other emotions experienced by women.

Women in general have fought very hard over the years to be equal to men in all respects and in some areas of life this is definitely called for.  However, in most other areas we have deprived ourselves of simple pleasures in life by striving for that so-called equality.  I am as guilty of this as any other woman.  Personally, I would love to spend more time with my loved ones and my children, seeing  nature, breathing fresh air and having restful sleep at night.  Can I achieve this without sacrificing? A lifestyle which goes against the accepted perception of what I should be able to do in my life? Unfortunately, not at this moment.  Will the right moment ever come? I am doing all in my power to get there.

This begs the question “is the fight for equality beyond the relationship level worth it?” Only if you think that all that we sacrificed in the process of reaching this goal is worth sacrificing. I do not believe so anymore.